We wanted to take the time to shine a spotlight on those who embody living life to the fullest. Today, we celebrate Paula Gilman, a remarkable woman whose life story is deeply intertwined with the history and community of Gilmanton, New Hampshire.
Gilmanton, located 34 miles from Lake Winnipesaukee, is a charming town known for its rich history and scenic beauty. Famous as the home of Grace Metalious, author of “Peyton Place,” and the birthplace of H.H. Holmes, America’s first documented serial killer, made infamous by “Devil in the White City,” Gilmanton blends historical significance with picturesque landscapes, numerous crystal-clear lakes and ponds, and mountain views as far as the eye can see.
Born on April 1, 1948, Paula Gilman embodies the spirit of Gilmanton. As part of our SilverSavvy Spotlight series, we are excited to share her story. Founder of SilverSavvy, Laura Lynn Morrissey, spent time with Paula to learn more about her inspiring journey, dedication to conservation, and passion for organic flower farming.
Q&A with Paula Gilman
Family and Heritage
Q: Can you share a bit about your family history and what it means to be a 7th-generation resident of Gilmanton?
A: I am the 7th descendant of Antipas Gilman, one of the original settlers for whom the town is named. Edward Gilman was the first to set foot in America, arriving in 1638. Antipas Gilman was instrumental in developing Gilmanton, serving as the first inn-holder and helping lay out the town’s lots and boundaries. Understanding this lineage has always made me feel a profound connection to Gilmanton. It’s not just the place I live in; it’s a part of who I am. This deep-rooted heritage instills a sense of responsibility and pride in maintaining the legacy my ancestors started.
Q: What does it mean to be a 7th-generation descendant and resident of Gilmanton?
A: It is both an honor and humbling. Returning home 22 years ago made me realize the significance of my name. People were shocked to hear I was a Gilman, and they still ask if I am a descendant. Now, I truly carry the name with pride. Being a part of this long lineage is a reminder of the importance of preserving our history and contributing to our community. It has shaped my identity and guided many of my decisions in life.
Q: How has your family’s legacy influenced your life and the choices you’ve made?
A: Discovering the history of Gilmanton inspired me to preserve my family’s legacy. Knowing our contributions to the town, I feel a duty to maintain and restore its historical buildings, especially in Lower Gilmanton where I grew up. My ancestors played a significant role in the town’s development, and I feel a deep obligation to honor their efforts. This has driven me to be active in community preservation projects and to ensure that our town’s heritage is not lost in time.
Organic Flower Farming at Fernwood Farm
Q: What inspired you to start your organic flower farm Fernwood Farm?
A: Desperation after an unexpected divorce. This land has been in my family since 1914, and I couldn’t bear to lose it. I combined my love for flowers with the need to make a living, securing several grants to develop an organic flower farm. The process was challenging but deeply rewarding. It allowed me to connect with the land in a meaningful way and provided a sense of purpose during a difficult time. Growing flowers organically was a way to honor the purity of the land that my family has cherished for generations.
Q: Can you describe a typical day on your farm?
A: Now retired, we focus on maintaining the farm. We mow, cut back brush, and plant veggies. We also prune our blueberry and raspberry bushes. We used to work until dark, but now we relax on the porch by 3 pm with an adult beverage, enjoying the wildlife. In the past, my days were much longer. I would often start early in the morning, tending to the flowers and ensuring they were healthy and vibrant. It was hard work, but seeing the beauty that resulted from my efforts made it all worthwhile. Today, even though the pace is slower, the joy of working the land and being surrounded by nature remains the same.
Q: What are some of your favorite flowers to grow and why?
A: Peonies, in memory of my mother who loved them. They are hardy and long-lived. I also enjoyed growing Lisianthus and Snapdragons in the hoop house, and hydrangeas for their low maintenance. Each flower holds a special place in my heart for different reasons. Peonies remind me of my mother and her love for gardening. Lisianthus and Snapdragons, with their delicate beauty and resilience, symbolize the perseverance and grace required to maintain the farm. Hydrangeas, with their lush, vibrant blooms, represent the abundance and joy that nature brings.
Conservation Efforts
Q: What sparked your passion for conservation?
A: Learning about conservation at our annual Gilmanton’s Old Home Day Event one year made me realize its importance. I knew my grandparents and mother would want me to protect our land, so I placed it under a conservation easement. The decision to conserve the land was deeply personal. It was about more than just preserving the environment; it was about honoring the legacy of those who came before me. Conservation ensures that the natural beauty and historical significance of our land remain intact for future generations.
Q: Can you tell us about a conservation project you’re particularly proud of?
A: My own land’s conservation easement. It was a long expensive process, but ensuring the land remained undeveloped was worth it. I signed the deed in 2011, preserving it for future generations. This project was a labor of love and dedication. It required navigating complex legal and financial hurdles, but the result was a protected piece of land that will continue to thrive and serve as a reminder of our commitment to conservation. Knowing that this land will remain untouched and beautiful for years to come gives me immense satisfaction.
Q: How do you see the future of conservation in Gilmanton and beyond?
A: I hope more people will conserve their land. Educating owners on the importance of preserving farmland is crucial. Thomie and I work with the Gilmanton Land Trust to prioritize important parcels, including farms and wildlife corridors. Conservation is not just about protecting land; it’s about fostering a culture of respect and appreciation for our natural resources. By working together, we can ensure that Gilmanton and other communities continue to benefit from the beauty and bounty of preserved land.
Community Involvement
Q: You’re very active in the community. Can you share some of the initiatives or events you’re involved in?
A:
- Member of Gilmanton Conservation Commission
- Charter Member and former Treasurer of Gilmanton’s Own, Inc.
- President of Lower Gilmanton Community Club
- Former Board Member of Gilmanton Historical Society
- Secured grants for Kelley Corner School House and First Baptist Church
- Board member of Gilmanton’s 300th Anniversary
- Obtained historic recognition for Tom Howe Barn & Conservation Area
Being involved in these initiatives has allowed me to contribute to the preservation and enhancement of our community. Each project is a testament to the collaborative spirit of Gilmanton and our shared commitment to maintaining its unique character and heritage.
Q: How has your involvement in the community enriched your life?
A: It has become a passion. Restoring and preserving local landmarks has connected me with wonderful individuals and organizations, enriching my life. The sense of accomplishment and the relationships I’ve built through these efforts have been incredibly fulfilling. Community involvement has given me a deeper appreciation for Gilmanton and its residents. It’s a joy to see the positive impact of our work and to know that we are making a difference.
Friendship and Social Life
Q: Can you share a story of a special friendship that has impacted your life?
A: Dr. Rick Churchill, my horticulture professor, inspired me deeply. He encouraged self-discovery and lit a fire in me I didn’t know existed. Barbara Berger, a fellow horticulture graduate, taught me to be strong and laugh at myself. Both friendships have been incredibly impactful. Rick’s mentorship helped me develop the confidence to pursue my passion for horticulture. Barbara’s friendship provided support and encouragement during challenging times. Together, these relationships have shaped who I am and continue to inspire me.
Q: How do you maintain and nurture your friendships?
A: My friends are like family. We support each other, share good food, wine, and lots of laughs. I cherish these relationships and have never been happier. Regular gatherings and shared experiences help us stay connected. Whether it’s a simple meal together or working on a community project, these moments strengthen our bonds and create lasting memories. Friendship is about being there for each other, through good times and bad, and I am grateful for the wonderful friends I have.
Q: What role does your family play in your daily life?
A: Everything. My daughter, Telisha, her husband, Chris, and my granddaughters Meaghan and Molly are my world. We gather several times a year, and I built a large house so my family could come home to Gilmanton. Family is the cornerstone of my life. Our gatherings are filled with laughter, love, and the sharing of traditions. These moments strengthen our bonds and create cherished memories. Having my family close by provides immense joy and a sense of fulfillment.
Q: How has your faith and involvement in the church influenced you?
A: Losing my mother at a young age made me struggle with faith. Returning to Gilmanton and attending the First Baptist Church where I grew up helped me reconnect with spirituality. The church and community bring me closer to believing in something greater than us. My involvement in the church has provided comfort, guidance, and a sense of belonging. It has helped me navigate life’s challenges and find peace in knowing that there is a higher power watching over us. The support and fellowship within the church community have been invaluable.
Living a Full Life
Q: You lead such a full life with family, friends, and various activities. How do you find balance?
A: Balance is challenging. My calendar is always full, and I try to cut back but stay involved in meaningful activities. I’m now focused on finding the deed to the Parsonage Lot across from the First Baptist Church, a project tied to my family’s history. Finding balance requires prioritizing what matters most and making time for self-care. It’s about setting boundaries and ensuring that while I remain active, I also take moments to rest and recharge. Staying organized and being mindful of my limits helps me maintain a harmonious lifestyle.
Q: What advice would you give to others about living a fulfilling and active life as they age?
A: Age is just a number! I feel like a 36-year-old in a 76-year-old body. Stay active, involved, and do what you love. Cherish friendships and make time to laugh and enjoy life. Embrace new experiences and continue learning. It’s important to keep both the mind and body engaged. Surround yourself with positive influences, and don’t be afraid to pursue your passions, no matter your age. Life is about finding joy in everyday moments and making the most of every opportunity.
Hobbies and Interests
Q: Besides farming and conservation, what other hobbies or interests do you pursue?
A: I love historical research, especially for Gilmanton. I also read 3-4 books a week to relax. Researching history allows me to connect with the past and uncover stories that shape our understanding of the present. Reading, on the other hand, is my escape—a way to explore different worlds and ideas. These hobbies provide a balance to my active lifestyle, offering both intellectual stimulation and relaxation.
Q: Is there something new you’d like to try or learn?
A: I want to rollerblade. We’re having our 850+ foot driveway paved, and I’m excited to rollerblade back and forth. Learning new skills keeps life interesting and challenging. Rollerblading is not only a fun activity but also a great way to stay fit. It’s important to keep setting new goals and trying new things, regardless of age, to keep the spirit of adventure alive.
Personal Wisdom
Q: What are some of the most important lessons you’ve learned throughout your life?
A: Don’t be afraid to speak up for yourself. After my divorce at 60, I learned to make my own decisions and live the life I dreamed of. Independence and self-advocacy are crucial. It’s important to trust yourself and have the courage to follow your own path. Life is too short to live according to someone else’s expectations. Embrace your individuality, pursue your passions, and don’t be afraid to take risks. Each experience, whether good or bad, contributes to your growth and resilience.
Q: How do you hope to be remembered by your community and family?
A: As someone who made a positive difference by restoring and preserving landmarks and conserving land. I want to be remembered as a person who cared deeply about her community and worked tirelessly to protect its heritage. My hope is that my efforts inspire others to take an active role in preservation and conservation, ensuring that Gilmanton remains a special place for future generations. I also hope to be remembered for my kindness, generosity, and the love I shared with my family and friends.
Celebrating Aging Well
Our mission is to celebrate the incredible lives and legacies of individuals like Paula Gilman, who exemplify living life to the fullest. Their stories inspire us to cherish our heritage, embrace our communities, and pursue our passions with vigor.
We invite you to share your thoughts and feedback on Paula’s story and suggest topics or individuals you believe should be featured in our SilverSavvy Spotlight series. Your insights help us highlight the vibrant lives of those who make a difference in their communities.
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To You Aging Well,
Laura Lynn Morrissey